Hmm. Tough situation.

As has been said, I think if you're too negative about it you risk pushing her away.

Firstly because it could be seen as too controlling, and lacking trust - like how often when people are continually falsely accused of cheating they end up going and doing it as payback. It's sort of like if you do the time for it anyway you might as well do the crime or something. Odd but it happens.

Secondly, because if it does relate to some kind of sexual need or fantasy or deeper interest of hers, shutting it down could really alienate her. Think about your response if she blocked your sexual needs by refusing particular deeds or insisting on only certain ways or whatever. She'd suddenly seem boring and inhibiting what you could be doing.

Or of course maybe it's not sexual at all....maybe she just wants to get buff or something and it seems cooler than the gym...don't want to jump to conclusions.

One approach might be to consider what about it turns her on and find ways to scratch that itch that don't upset you. Is it the exhibitionism angle? Maybe you guys could do stuff in places where u might get caught, or like have her flash you when you're out and about or something like that. Or is it the idea of strangers? If so you could look into role play or something. Is it just she feels sexy when watched in which case she could dance for you or otherwise develop more visual aspects to foreplay, or maybe it's just the sense of appreciation - let her know more often she's hot? I dunno...hope i'm not running my mouth here...just pondering some ideas...don't mean it disrespectfully.

Even if she is hell bent on it....it could also just be one part of her personality...doesn't mean she'd have any interest in leaving you or anything like that. Might just be like how you might notice a girl on TV is good looking. You could still be the man she loves and so on...but she finds it hot to dance for others. So you don't want to jump to conclusions too much.

Anyhow...I'd proceed with caution as if she's keen on it being negative could really upset her...but at the same time I can understand the hesitation too....but I'd look into if there's a way to embrace it without crossing your lines too much.

I get what you're saying. This isn't the same thing, but I've always wanted Stacey to refrain from bartending because she'd have to actively flirt with dudes to get them to buy more drinks and thus get herself bigger tips. That would benefit us of course because she'd be bringing more money in the house and wouldn't really be working hard to do so. At the same time, I'm not interested in her having to pretend to have interest in some other dude as part of her job.

Like I said, I realize that this isn't even close to what you're talking about but it's somewhere in the same realm I think. At least it's the best example I can think of to say I wouldn't be cool with it.