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#561 Re: The Garden » Am I Moving in on his Girl? » 917 weeks ago
strat0 wrote:she felt like she was being used for sex because he would make up with her and screw her then the next day start yelling at her again
They're definitely getting back together.
Wait...what? Your kidding....right?
#562 Re: The Garden » Am I Moving in on his Girl? » 917 weeks ago
In my opinion the etiquite should be:
"If your buddy dumps the girl, there is a provisional waiting period to make sure he doesn't change his mind, then she's fair game, afterall he doesn't want her. But if the GIRL dumps your male friend, and he still wanted her, then she's off limits for life. The only exception to that rule would be if he himself tried to set you up for some reason."
So, according to my personal rules, I'd say you've probably done the wrong thing. Sorry. That said, sometimes when you're in love you got to do what you got to do.
I'd be mindful of what james was saying though. If she was attracted to him because he was an asshole in the first place it's not a good sign. Girls like that chop and change very easily. I'd also worry that any relationship with her might be so close to her relationship with him that she'd be confussed.
I'd be VERY careful as IMO this is the kind of situation where you could EASILY end up loosing both the girl AND your best friend.
Well see that's the problem, he's changed alot since they've been going out. She's even said he's not the same person she was dating a year ago. I mean I moved about 30 miles away a few months ago, but before that I noticed the differences in him. And there was sometimes she felt like she was being used for sex because he would make up with her and screw her then the next day start yelling at her again. Which really sickens me with everything she's been through and him not being considerate of that.
#563 Re: The Garden » Am I Moving in on his Girl? » 917 weeks ago
My biggest question when I read all this is- Did you point out to him that he was treating her like shit throughout the time they were dating, or did you just stay out of it?
If you did, I think you have the leg to stand on that you told him he was fucking it up, but it obviously didn't matter to him.
See that's the thing. I did. He always got pissed off and told me it was none of my buissness or to stay out of it. Well IMO it IS my buissness when her boyfriend is reducing her to tears on almost a daily basis.
#564 Re: The Garden » Am I Moving in on his Girl? » 917 weeks ago
strat.... you kind of made your move too quickly. Your buddy probably feels like you were eyeballing his girl all this time, and like a fox in the grass, you were waiting to pounce on the first sign of trouble.
But... life happens.
Your buddy, he'll either get over it or he won't. If you REALLY like this girl, then you should explore being with her officially. If he has a problem with that, he can either get on board with it, or fuck off frankly.
The bottom line is the whole 'bro code' thing is total bullshit created by men, who want to have their cake and eat it too. They want to split with their girl, but they want her to stay single just in case they change their mind. That's all it's about.
Now as far as the band thing goes, THAT might actually create the biggest problem. You might be put in a position to choose him or her in the band, and if you choose her, he's gonna be perminately pissed imo.
Ultimately if you are just going out with this girl, because she's there, you don't need to throw away a long-term friendship, just for a couple months of pussy.
No I mean the thing is is that hes been to family holidays of mine too
and his family probably would have stopped by if they had been in town, but they were in Virginia. I don't know. Should I feel guilty? Honestly he's more torn up about it than she is becuase she's had to think about whether she wanted to end their relationship for about a month now.
I don't know. I feel slightly guilty, but like I said I had no intentions of asking her out this weekend(and I didn't). I mean we just hung out...
And as for a band I mean we jam about once a week. He's the lead guitarist, although I do know someone much better I don't know if I could get him and I value our friendship...
Just so confused...:|
#565 Re: The Sunset Strip » What Are You Listening To? » 917 weeks ago
Sugar-System Of A Down
#566 Re: Guns N' Roses » Chinese Democracy/Rock Band 2 (Tracks Leaking?) » 917 weeks ago
Oo speaking of individual tracks and these songs, I'm gonna be HUGELY ticked if there's still a skip in Scraped
#567 Re: The Garden » Am I Moving in on his Girl? » 917 weeks ago
Your friend fucked it up dude. She's free now and he is just an overly possessive guy. If your friend is going to break off your friendship over petty shit like that then fuck 'em I say.
We'll we're(kinda) back on speaking terms...Just can't mention her or anything or he gets pissed.
#568 Re: The Garden » Am I Moving in on his Girl? » 917 weeks ago
Well, I mean I don't really have the intention of asking her out right now. I mean It was just to hang out. Not like we were doing anything. I don't know...I mean I just feel that he wouldn't have this problem if he wouldn't have treated her like shit. I mean she would call me or text me crying at least once a week, because of him. I'm someone she can talk to. And it's not exactly like she has the best home life either. She's also had a few problems involving some guys that I really would like to just line up against a wall with a shot gun in my hand...Her boyfriend didn't even support her with that much. went to the first couple of trials with her and then said it was too much stress on him...
#569 Re: Guns N' Roses » Bumblefoot-'Barefoot' Acoustic EP sampler » 917 weeks ago
James you should listen to the song Old. I'll hook you up later if I remeber
#570 The Garden » Am I Moving in on his Girl? » 917 weeks ago
- strat0
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Ok so my friend and his girlfriend broke up last monday on Spring Break after having dated for around a year and a half. She was tired of him being an asshole all the time and cussing her out for petty shit. Well I've known the boyfriend for pretty much ever and he's one of my best friends. I met her through him and We've become best friends.
Now the problem comes from me inviting her to easter sunday, where it was me and some family. He got extremely pissed off and pretty much cussed both of us out.
The way I see it I didn't do anything wrong. She's a friend. I do have feelings for her, but I don't really see how that changes anything. I invited her with the intention of hanging out.
Another thing that complicates this situation is we're all in a band together(or were at least). I really like the way she sings but he won't have any part of the band unless she's out. So I have to kinda choose between someone I love, who's a good friend, or someone I've known forever who is a good friend too...
So comments on this? Was I in the Wrong? Is he Overeacting?
