HeyAll,

While this has the risk of turning into a "lonely hearts" post...i'm actually interested in how people met their match.

My situtation is i'm 30, and single, and looking to meet someone. But i'm discovering that in our current society there don't seem to be a lot of mechanisms for it.

I mean there is internet dating (which I have friends who have got married due to) which is fine - but so much is lost in the internet process - people often  lie about themselves/have different personalities online. And even if they are straight up - its hard to tell chemistry on the net. Like in person you can tell in seconds if its someone you'll enjoy talking with or not. Online people can seem inteteresting, then you meet them in person and realise your not going to get along.

Then theres the bar/pub/club scene. This seems to be how most people meet. Maybe its because i live in Melbourne Australia which isn't a big place by international standards. But its not like these places are flooded with people. its the same faces at the same venues all the time. Its funny cos I recently read in that book about about the life of a pick-up guru how he spent his time practising his skills in bars etc...but there just arn't the single girls around here in these bars. He'd be finished here in a day! Maybe i should move to the usa.

Then theres networking. But all my friends and social circles are now married, which closes the door there.

Anyway...the point of this thread isn't for me to complain...its more just that i'm interested to see what other people think - historical comunities - like those of our parents and grandparents were more orginised for people to couple-off I guess - like they had arranged dinner dances and so forth, and people would actively work to avoid people getting left on the shelf.

Now its socially acceptable to live alone, or be unmarried/divorsed/ ..it seems like some of the structres are just gone. I can see that as a good thing in some ways - i'm not saying women should be forced to marry abusive men and that kind of thing...however at the same time...it seems everyone is married to their jobs, and you have to be quite lucky to meet a person, as we don't have the social systems in place anyomore to do so....

Just my 2c!